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Having Found Your Intended Spouse, Get Married

In Daniel Defoe’s Book Robinson Crusoe we read

—Without telling my father,—-without thinking what the end of it would be; I went on board the ship.

Of course, we all know that trip ended in a ship-wreck! May your marriage never end in a ship-wreck in the mighty name of Jesus Christ. You need deep prayerful thought and divine guidance. You should marry a person who likes you, has interest in your well-being and success, speaks the truth into your life and cares for you. You should marry a person whom you feel confident in his or her presence and desire to see very often; not for selfish carnal, sinful purposes, but for life achievement and fulfillment. You have been out visiting or going out on dates with your friend. You have found a spiritual and emotional link between you two. Your lives are complementary. That is, he or she has few of the virtues or qualities which you lack and which help to make you feel total or complete. Both of you have been open, honest and sincere with each other. There are no hidden agendas between you both. Then you are on the road to a deeper promising relationship which could lead to marriage. But that is not yet sufficient. You have sought counsel from your pastor or from a matured Christian. You have become very familiar with what the Bible teaches on marriage. You have been prayerful not just because of marriage alone, but all along your Christian life. Let us consider the following also. Some of these have been touched upon before, but there is need to emphasize.
Chastity: All along, both of you should keep pure. There is no room for the crazy worldly fashion of impurity or lack of chastity, called fornication. This helps to keep the relationship pure and strong. More importantly, you would honour God and bring glory to his name. Your body is the temple of God where his Holy Spirit lives, therefore discipline yourselves by bringing yourselves under His control (Colossians3:5-7). There is no pride in going to bed before you become husband and wife. True love is patient, kind and not selfish (1Corinthians 13:4-7). Anyone who cannot wait for you, is not worthy of you. Let him or her go away for good! A tweet by Bishop David Oyedepo states: <a href="

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You have prayerfully found a man or woman whom you consider suitable for you? This is the final stage when you have to be sure that you are in the right relationship. Countless numbers of questions need to be raised and answered. These are real life practical issues. Is your intended a born again Christian just as you are? Does he or she belong to a good fellowship or church? How does he react in an emergency? Does he care about you? Is she a good material for a housewife and mother? Would he make a good husband and father? Does he have a good job? Is he patient and kind? Do you naturally give compliments to each other? Are you complementary? Your intended is expected to have qualities which make up for those lacking in your own life. That is necessary for you to make a good couple. How liberal or generous is he? Is he stingy, or does he buy you token gifts? Does he or she know enough about house chores? Can he or she cook? Is he or she prayerful? Does he or she have a good knowledge of the Bible on marriage? Are you really in love or merely being drawn by infatuation? Is he easily angry? Does he or she easily forgive; or does he or she often recall past wrongs? Is he or she trustworthy? How good is he or she with handling money? How ambitious is your intended future life partner? Here is a tweet by Nicky Gumbel: <a href="

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Are you genetically compatible? A man with the genotype AS should not marry a lady with the same or weaker genotype; say AS or SS. They would likely have more of children who are susceptible to the sickle-cell anaemia disease, which often kills the victim or makes life loathsome and dreadful! Please seek medical experts for counsel. If you two are not compatible, then it is better to end the relationship! You are responsible for your relationship as well as the lives of children likely to be born through that relationship. Disobedience in this regard could be traumatic and grievous. Share all about each other. You should also tell each other about your past lives. Have you been in a relationship before? Why did you end that or any other relationship? Are there any other physical, medical or physiological problems to be faced and tackled before you move further? The list of questions is endless. That is why you should not rush to get married. Both of you should be bold and frank with each other in handling these questions. Please do not gloss them over. Are you a widow or widower seeking to re-marry? Then you should ensure that you marry a Christian in addition to the other points already stated. Mature singles or widows /widowers do not have a different set of guidelines from the younger, fresh ones. May each person ensure that the name of the LORD is glorified.
Here is another tweet from Abbatwit: <a href="http://

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Prayers for guidance from God
This is not a quick fix. It is not a formula as in solving a mathematical problem. You should already be in close relationship with God before you approach him for guidance on marriage. He is the same yesterday, today and tomorrow and forever. He knows all things. He knows what is best for your life. Let God be your guidance today and your tomorrow would be easier to enter and enjoy. Your relationship is God’s concern, God’s pleasure and for God’s glory. You cannot afford to be careless, impatient or deceived by any man or lady. God will make a way for you. You are responsible for your choice, but God would guide you if you have learnt to commit every area of your life to him.
Counsel from your Pastors, Christian Marriage Counsellors, Matured Married Christian Couples and Parents:
You need good counsel all along and as you take the final decision. In the multitude of counsellors problems are solved and much sorrow is avoided. Safety is thus assured (Proverbs 11:14). You cannot buy experience at the super market, except buying books and tapes of those who have the mind of Christ and quite a lot to share. You acquire knowledge and understanding through the Bible, through matured Christian counselling in Christian circles. You acquire wisdom, understanding and direction through constant prayerful fellowship with the Lord. God speaks to you through the Bible and during prayers. This is a two-way communication. You talk to God and He replies and vice versa. God promises to instruct us and guide us. Psalms 32:8. Consent and Approval: Genesis 24: 57 – 58; Genesis 28:1-2. Abraham sought a wife for his son Isaac from a well-known good source. He sent his trusted servant on the important assignment. After the parents and family of the lady were convinced, they knew it was important to seek the lady’s opinion. And they said, we will call the damsel, and inquire at her mouth. And they called Rebekah, and said unto her, Wilt thou go with this man? And she said I will go. Parental counsel, approval and consent plus the Lady’s consent should be respected and sought. Imposition is not the perfect will of God. God had used contacts through others to reveal a person’s future partner. That is not often the case. The approval of God is the greatest. Has the Lord led you in finding your future partner? Your joy and peace would be great if you really sought his guidance. If or when problems arise in the future, you would remember that you were not careless or ungodly in making your choice. That would give you added impetus to victory over any problem.
Wedding and Married Life: Getting married in the presence of fellow Christians in the church is the best option. Your marriage is also binding and legal when celebrated in a Marriage Registry before the Registrar. The legal or statutory requirements for marriage in some countries have it such that the Church building is licensed to conduct marriages. A certificate of authorization is issued from the Registry to the Church if there is no opposition to the marriage. Within a set period,say 15days notice of your intention is given to the public in order to ensure there are no oppositions to your intentions. This period is variable in different places. After the authorization, the wedding ceremony is to be solemnized within a certain period, variable in different places. The ceremony holds in the presence of witnesses. A Marriage Certificate is issued, indicating the names of the spouses, their ages, current addresses and occupations. The names of the Registrar and witnesses are also included. All such names included sign the Certificate, issued in copies, one of which is given to the wife and the other sent to the Registry. Variable sums of money are payable as Fees for notification, for the ceremony and for the certificates issued. You would check the fees when you visit your local Marriage Registry. Fees are also payable in the Church or the Registry for the Wedding Ceremony.
Importance Of The Marriage Ceremony: The choice words used carry a lot of heavy responsibility and commitment. You affirm that you do not know of any impediment why both of you may not be joined as husband and wife. By that you mean that you are stating the truth. Heaven and Earth are called upon as witnesses. The expression

AS BOTH OF YOU SHALL DECLARE ON THE DREADFUL DAY OF JUDGMENT

means that you are both accountable to God for everything you do with your marriage.

Saying I WILL and later saying I DO to the questions raised by the Registrar(the Church minister or any one so appointed) places a life-time responsibility upon both of you, as husband and wife, in the presence of God and the witnesses. God holds both of you accountable before him. Your Marriage is very important. It is for Lifetime Companionship, for Sexual Fulfillment, for Procreation and raising of good children in a decent Family under the umbrella of Jesus Christ.
In our next post, we shall consider the Marriage Ceremony and Realities of Married life. God bless you.

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Travel Light Please

You have made up your mind to travel. Have you made adequate provision for your journey? Have you packed your luggage? Do you remember the contents in your bag or suit case? Will your luggage pass through security checks without problems? Unnecessary excess weight should be laid aside or discarded. Whatever your means of transport, you are strongly advised to travel light. It is unwise and unnecessary to take along what you would not need for your journey. The story was told of an old lady who boarded a coach traveling from one city to the next. She paid her fares, got the very heavy suitcase placed in the luggage compartment, but insisted on placing a medium-sized bag on her lap. She ignored the advice to place the smaller luggage underneath the seat or overhead space provided. She was most uncomfortable throughout the journey because she ignored the provision made for her comfort and convenience. We are all on the journey of life. We move along day by day. We carry some materials and drop some. In addition we do carry other issues which are much heavier than luggage. Issues such as anger, anxieties, hatred, pride, vain glory, unforgiving attitude, tyranny, greed; inclusive of other vices all of which we would describe as PSYCHO-TOXIC and therefore poisonous to the mind. Severe sicknesses of the mind develop in a prevailing psycho-toxic situation. These would lead to physical death and with stubborn neglect, these could lead to eternal or everlasting death. You are of three parts namely spirit, mind and body. The spirit is the real you and links you more closely to God , your Maker or negatively to Satan, the arch enemy of mankind. Your mind is centered in your brain and helps you to think, learn and respond to the intellectual realm. Your body helps you to respond to the physical realm. Anything or power which brings your spirit under the control of your mind or body is not good for you; it is sin and therefore makes you estranged to God. These vices are only being managed by human efforts, with limited success. If you must get rid of a bad tree, it is best to attack it at the roots. Clipping off the leaves periodically cannot do. Depending on human efforts alone leads to intermittent frustrations. The power of God through faith in Jesus Christ alone is able to help mankind to overcome these vices. It is tragic to travel through life with avoidable heavy burdens. Unfortunately many travel through life like the old lady in the story, ignoring the safe provisions made for comfortable travel. God has made adequate provision for you through Jesus Christ. Each person travels through life daily and at the end of all life’s journeys he or she would meet his or her Maker. At last, it would be payback or accountability time; when you would render to God how you spent your life on earth. Whether you accept this or not, it is very true. It could be disastrous to wait until the last minute before embracing God’s provision. The reason is that you do not know if you would be conscious enough to make any useful decision during your last few days, or hours in this world! For God loved the world so much that he gave his only Son Jesus Christ, that whosoever believes in him should not perish, but have everlasting life. (John 3:16). All who receive Jesus , he gives to them the power to become children of God(John 1:10-12). Receive freedom today through Jesus Christ. Go Free. Travel smooth and Light.
Jesus said: Come unto me all ye that labour and are heavy laden, and I will give you rest. Take my yoke upon you, and learn of me; for I am meek and lowly in heart: and ye shall find rest unto your souls.For my yoke is easy, and my burden is light(Matthew11:28 -30). Jesus Christ is the burden and sin bearer for you and all other human beings. No one can afford to ignore him,because God has so appointed him. The Bible states: Humble yourselves therefore under the mighty hand of God, that he may exalt you in due time: Casting all your care upon him; for he careth for you (1 Peter 5:6-7). For prayers or counselling, contact us at Agape Focus. All private questions are treated confidentially. God bless you.

HOMOSEXUALITY CAN BE HEALED BY GOD:Steps towards Healing

Nothing is too hard for the LORD GOD our Maker. In Genesis 18:14 God assured Abraham that he and his wife Sarah would have a son in their old age. Abraham was 99 years old,while Sarah was 90 years old at that time. The promise of God made to them and repeated over many years, was fulfilled the following year when Isaac was born by Sarah!That was a miracle.In Luke 1:37, God sent an angel called Gabriel to the virgin called Mary to inform her assuredly that she would become pregnant by the supernatural power of God and without intercourse with a man! The strange news raised questions in the mind of Mary who was planning her wedding and still a virgin. Angel Gabriel drew her attention to another miracle which had just taken place in the life her cousin called Elisabeth, who had conceived in her old age. For with God nothing shall be impossible.The angel Gabriel told Mary that her first pregnancy would result in her bringing forth a son to be called JESUS, the Messiah, son of the Highest. He shall also save his people from their sins. God does things perfectly and orderly. God is never the author of confusion. Having sent message to Mary, he followed through to her intended husband called Joseph and assured him that Mary’s pregnancy was not due to her infidelity, but from God (Matthew 1:19-25). The days of miracles are not over, but very much with us today! God does creative, restorative and any other kind of miracle based on the need of each person who calls upon him. Your own case is not hopeless as you come trusting and obediently. Come to the God of miracles now; just as you are. If you are willing and obedient, God is willing and eager to heal you and set you free today! What must a person in need of healing or help do? Stop debating or arguing in your mind. Questions may arise in your mind? I am quite healthy and strong; you may say. Why do I need healing? Whatever you call your own peculiar situation, be it sickness, problem, vacuum or emptiness, anger, sorrow and frustration which led you into the lifestyle. Is it shyness or lack of confidence before the opposite sex, which made you think that you are not capable of heterosexual relationship? Were you abused or raped by a person of the same sex which lured you into the lifestyle? Did the regular offer of money lure you into the act, until it became your lifestyle? Did some people speak negatively into your life to harass, ridicule or bully you about your initial lack of drive towards the opposite sex? All of these and more can be taken care of in your life by God. Have you been married before, had children and yet chose homosexuality later? God is addressing your conscience now. Make a U-turn to God. Did you have certain physical deformities which led you to conclude that the choice for you was homosexuality? Congenital problems may produce physical imperfections in human beings. Congenital problems can be solved.In the sight of God, problems of spiritual, congenital, psychological, intellectual, socio-economical origins or any other not here stated, (be they statutory or legal), are no justifiable excuses for indulgence in the homosexual lifestyle! Recognize your need for help. Ask God to mercifully help you. Tell God your own particular condition or state. Surrender your life to Jesus Christ. He is the only one able to help you, having carried your problems on his body while he was flogged at the whipping post. Jesus Christ died for the whole human race and for you in particular. Because he suffered in place of you, paid the punishment for your sins by dying on the cross, God looks mercifully on anyone who puts his trust on Jesus Christ and faith in his blood so shed. Because God was pleased with the sacrifice through Jesus Christ, he raised him from the dead on the third day. If and when you call upon Jesus Christ as the Lord of your life; and believe in your heart that God raised him from death you shall be saved. Whosoever shall call upon the name of the Lord shall be saved. Have you done so? Now give thanks to God. Be true to God and your victory shall be permanent. Please get in touch with us at AgapeFocus for prayers and counsel to deal with your own peculiar situation. We are helpers of your joy, confident in the effectiveness of the blood and the name of Jesus Christ to solve ALL human problems brought to God Almighty. God bless you.

AGAPE NUGGETS – 2

Forgiveness is an essential component of relationships. If you appreciate or love a person, you would not be hesitant to overlook his or her shortcomings or failures. That is not indicative of condoning the bad behaviour of the other person,but being willing and ready to accommodate and uplift the man, woman or child whom you love.If a person fails, you would not seek to bury him or her alive! You would not ‘make a mountain out of a molehill’ in the course of your reaction to the other person’s mistakes or failures.A molehill is the small mound of earth thrown up by a mole while burrowing. A mole is a small burrowing mammal which has velvety or dark fur. It has a its forearms specialised for digging.It often feeds on insects.If you would judge yourself truly, you would know that you are not perfect either.A molehill is treated as a mountain when you exagerrate on the mistakes of others,making them look aweful as if irredeemable.You could make your spouse appear useless or unprofitable when you never see any good in whatever he or she does.Who are you to condemn another person?Have you never failed? We put it to you that by that very attitude of yours in justifying yourself,you have just failed! On the other hand,you may not approve the acts of the other person,but you seek to correct him or her in love, by making constructive criticisms.Anyone who fails to see positive potential in his or her neighbour,work colleague,subordinates,students, friend,family member or spouse needs to do a self-examination.Forgive today and always.Forgive your spouse now.God forgives us and expects us to be forgiving too; otherwise God would not forgive us.Corrective discipline is better than damning judgment which closes the door to future hope and progress.That is not the way of peace and progress.Habitual fault-finding makes a person to hunt for faults in others.The trend therefore is to find fault on important matters as well as trivial matters.On those trivial matters,watch out;you might be ‘making a mountain out of a molehill’.Please shun stubborn unforgiving lifestyle because it is psychologically and spiritually poisonous!Another very interesting rider to forgiveness is in dealing with your self personally.Do you;have you;or would you ever forgive yourself?Paul writing under the influence of the Spirit of God in Ephesians 4:31-32 states: Let all bitterness,and wrath,and anger and clamour,and evil speaking be put away from you,with all malice:And be ye kind one to another,tenderhearted,forgiving one another,even as God for Christ’s sake hath forgiven you.Jesus Christ also said that if we forgive others,God would forgive us,but if we fail to forgive,then we should not expect to be forgiven by God!(Matthew 6:14-15). Please,get in touch with us.God bless you.

ASPECTS OF THE GLORY OF GOD

The heavens declare the glory of God; and the firmament showeth his handiwork.  Psalms 19:1                                                                                                                 In the heavens we are able to locate the sun, moon, planets and the stars, which mankind describe as heavenly bodies. Air pilots view zones or layers of the firmament or skies when the aircrafts are fully airborne.Part of the works of God seen are the land formations of plains, hills, mountains, valleys,water falls,rivers and seas.How beautiful the various land forms are to behold! God has made all things very well and beautiful in their various locations.Many of these are not easy to describe with words than just to admire the handiworks of GOD ALMIGHTY in each of them.Who should not appreciate the great feat coupled with humility of the first spacemen to land upon the surface of the moon in 1969. They gave all glory to God and claimed they were able to feel the presence of God over there on the moon. Two of the three men who went actually walked on the moon surface. They came out of the Lunar Module, walked some distance and then went back inside it before returning back to the earth. The whole world and most especially the USA was ecstatic. The following description from ASTRONOMY TODAY speaks volumes, though it is no longer news: Apollo 11 was the first lunar-landing mission. Launched on July 16, 1969, the crew of Neil A. Armstrong, Edwin E. Aldrin, Jr., and Michael Collins flew the spacecraft Columbia (CSM) and Eagle (LM). On July 20, 1969, Armstrong and Aldrin landed the Eagle at the relatively flat and unobstructed Tranquillity site on the moon, while Collins remained in the CSM. The LM spent 21 hours 36 minutes on the lunar surface, and the crew spent 2 hours 31 minutes outside the LM in a local area excursion on foot to a distance of approximately 50 m (160 ft) from Tranquillity Base.                That was significant enough to set the pace for future lunar explorations and the rest of outer space.Recognition must also be given to the first man to orbit the earth,Yuri Gagarin of USSR,in April 1961. It is one thing to see the handiworks of God, yet it is another thing to appreciate such works and give the glory due to God,Maker of Heaven and Earth and the MANUFACTURER of all human beings! The Psalmist was very quick to appreciate God and his works. He said:When I consider thy heavens, the work of thy fingers, the moon and the stars, which thou hast ordained;What is man, that thou art mindful of him? and the son of man, that thou visitest him? For thou hast made him a little lower than the angels, and hast crowned him with glory and honour.Thou madest him to have dominion over the works of thy hands; thou hast put all things under his feet. Psalms 8:3-6. The power to have control over the earth and to dominate all other creatures was given by God to mankind.In spite of this fact of power given to mankind,God is not appreciated by many today.However, when difficult times come, or when disaster strikes the same category of people tend to lay blames on God!This should not be so. These are a few photo shots from the air: The goodness of God to mankind in elevating man so much should be reciprocated with loving, loyal, reverent and worshipful obedience. The photo shots are miniatures and virtually insignificant aspects of the greater revelations of the glory of God from the wider outer space!

Viewed from Aircraft window in full flight "The Skies"Land viewed from above in Flight