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Forgiveness in Marriage

In ordinary human relationships, the issue of forgiveness is very vital for continuity. It is human to make mistakes, but that is no excuse for repetition of the same mistakes. If a person takes his or her relationship seriously, he would not indulge in causing sorrows to the other person at the expense of the continuity or stability of the relationship. In marriage, forgiveness occupies an important place. A husband and his wife interact every moment daily, throughout their life time. It is inevitable for offences to occur. However, when offences do occur, it should be handled patiently,in love and give the other person, room for correction, apologies, and improvement. Nobody should be judgemental or condemning. It is good to consider yourself, assuming you are the offender or one who made a mistake. Where there is understanding, no offence or wrong is too big to be forgiven. The peak of offence may be taken as infidelity. That, as big and horrible as it sounds and feels can yet be forgiven. Any offence that could be forgiven by God should be forgiveable by human beings.It is written: Be ye kind one to another, tenderhearted, forgiving one another, even as God for Christ’s sake hath forgiven you[Ephesians 4:32]. Bearing with one another, and forgiving each other, whoever has a complaint against anyone; just as the Lord forgave you, so also should you. And beyond all these things put on love, which is the perfect bond of unity. And let the peace of Christ rule in your hearts, to which indeed you were called in one body; and be thankful[Colossians 3:13-15]. The marriage relationship does not thrive or succeed with a ‘TIT FOR TAT’ or retaliatory attitude. We should not render evil for evil or insult for insult. Rather, we should live good and peaceful lives that are harmonious, sympathetic, brotherly, kind and humble, blessing each other verbally and in actions[1 Peter 3:8-9]. This may not be very easy, but God gives the grace to each person to make us able. God never asks us to do what is impossible! With God, all things are possible.

AGAPE NUGGETS – 2

Forgiveness is an essential component of relationships. If you appreciate or love a person, you would not be hesitant to overlook his or her shortcomings or failures. That is not indicative of condoning the bad behaviour of the other person,but being willing and ready to accommodate and uplift the man, woman or child whom you love.If a person fails, you would not seek to bury him or her alive! You would not ‘make a mountain out of a molehill’ in the course of your reaction to the other person’s mistakes or failures.A molehill is the small mound of earth thrown up by a mole while burrowing. A mole is a small burrowing mammal which has velvety or dark fur. It has a its forearms specialised for digging.It often feeds on insects.If you would judge yourself truly, you would know that you are not perfect either.A molehill is treated as a mountain when you exagerrate on the mistakes of others,making them look aweful as if irredeemable.You could make your spouse appear useless or unprofitable when you never see any good in whatever he or she does.Who are you to condemn another person?Have you never failed? We put it to you that by that very attitude of yours in justifying yourself,you have just failed! On the other hand,you may not approve the acts of the other person,but you seek to correct him or her in love, by making constructive criticisms.Anyone who fails to see positive potential in his or her neighbour,work colleague,subordinates,students, friend,family member or spouse needs to do a self-examination.Forgive today and always.Forgive your spouse now.God forgives us and expects us to be forgiving too; otherwise God would not forgive us.Corrective discipline is better than damning judgment which closes the door to future hope and progress.That is not the way of peace and progress.Habitual fault-finding makes a person to hunt for faults in others.The trend therefore is to find fault on important matters as well as trivial matters.On those trivial matters,watch out;you might be ‘making a mountain out of a molehill’.Please shun stubborn unforgiving lifestyle because it is psychologically and spiritually poisonous!Another very interesting rider to forgiveness is in dealing with your self personally.Do you;have you;or would you ever forgive yourself?Paul writing under the influence of the Spirit of God in Ephesians 4:31-32 states: Let all bitterness,and wrath,and anger and clamour,and evil speaking be put away from you,with all malice:And be ye kind one to another,tenderhearted,forgiving one another,even as God for Christ’s sake hath forgiven you.Jesus Christ also said that if we forgive others,God would forgive us,but if we fail to forgive,then we should not expect to be forgiven by God!(Matthew 6:14-15). Please,get in touch with us.God bless you.