Posts Tagged ‘Love’

AGAPE NUGGETS

If you say that you love a person and you do not always speak home truths to him or her, your love is fake. Such love is based on fear, falsehood,  discouragement, selfishness, wickedness, or any other form of evil. What if the other person rejects or rebuffs your good intentions? Then you are not liable, but your  association or relationship is on shaky grounds. Such relationship would not last, except there is change of attitude and repentance.
If you are married, please go all out to love and cherish your relationship with your spouse. Do not take him or her for granted. Commit your ways unto the LORD. Trust and obey his words. Respect each other. Communicate freely and openly with each other every day. Do things together- praying, eating, walking, listening, leisure, sleeping, resting, holidaying and sexual intimacy. Planning comes without saying, for these to be achievable. When the children start to come never allow your relationship to become sidelined!
If you are single, never enter into any relationship which would not improve your life morally, spiritually with God, your life skills and ensure continuity of the basic needs of life. Your peace of mind, body and soul are of vital importance. Evil companionship corrupts good manners.
Bear in mind the fact that you cannot improve yourself by resisting the good counsel and supportive efforts of your true friends. One of such friends may desire to spend the rest of his or her life with you as your spouse in the near future! If you spoil your chances you may regret later. Therefore, be steadfast, diligent and watchful. Be prayerful and focused in life also. Keep your body pure and chaste. Pre-marital sex does no good to marital foundation and happiness. Your life needs to be cleansed of such impurity and sin in order to build a solid foundation for Christian Marriage.  Never toy with counselling from trusted Christian persons and your pastor.
Dear friend, let me humbly tell you an important home truth. If you have not given your life to Jesus Christ, you are lost and you probably do not realise this fact yet.
You can rectify this situation before it is too late!
If you confess with your mouth that Jesus Christ is your Lord and believe in your heart that God raised Jesus from the dead, you shall be saved.
Sincerely call upon Jesus now. Invite him into your life. Jesus Christ would honour your invitation and come in to change your life for the better. Whosoever shall call upon the name of the Lord Jesus Christ shall be saved. Romans 10: 9-13. Please do so quickly anywhere you may be now. Quietly from your heart; or in your room; in the bathroom or even in the toilet! In the plane travelling or on the motorcycle; you can surrender your life to Jesus Christ.
Jesus Christ came into this world to save sinners. That includes me and you. Nobody is exempted. For God so loved the world that he gave his only begotten Son that whosoever believes in him should not perish but have everlasting life. John 3:16. Please let us know that you have made the decision to follow Jesus Christ. We shall be glad to support you in your walk with Jesus. We send you useful materials of faith in Jesus. We would also link you with the Church nearest to you for good fellowship.
God bless you.

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IMPORTANT LIFE CHOICES: WORK AND BIBLICAL MARRIAGE

You are welcome to Biblical Counselling with Agape Focus. We are considering two of the many important choices we make as human beings, namely work and marriage. Although everyone makes choices on earth; some choices are viewed as being more important than others by the different people who make them. We are focusing on work and Biblical Marriage. Everyone needs food, clothes, shelter or house. Therefore you need money from a regular job to secure these basic needs of life. Anyone who refuses to work should not rightfully expect to eat. God, our Maker, instructed us from day 1 to work and that order has not changed. You must be able to feed, clothe and house yourself before taking care of others. Christian Marriage and Biblical Marriage are one and the same, barring modern-day ignorance, which lead to misconceptions, misinterpretations and confusion.  Marriage is meant for a life time. The present human conflict over marriage does not reduce the life time importance of marriage.

Marriage is meant for companionship, sexual fulfilment and procreation. A man and a woman come into relationship that leads into marriage because they have discovered that there is mutual trust and friendship. Their desires in life are worthwhile and have good prospect. They are in love and are hopeful of spending their future lives together. They are poised to face realities such as finance, accommodation, genetic counselling, family planning and the future. As Christians, their first point of consideration is being sure of God’s leading after much prayerful thought. Good marriage counselling from more matured Christians is very essential. The final choice belongs to the two.

The modern confusion over human sexuality and marriage is not from God, the Maker of marriage. Biologically,there is no inheritable gene for homosexuality! All various claims of human sexuality, other than the traditional and natural orders of male and female do not have scientific proofs! Human beings have only decided to do things their own way. The consequences of human violations of the plan of God for mankind and marriage are destabilising and dangerous! The plan of God is 1MAN+1WOMAN=TRUE MARRIAGE. When you choose to get married, be guided by selfless love, maturity, understanding and great responsibility. Each man and woman coming together should know that it is meant  for life time, till either of them dies. Any disobedience such as in abuses and divorces brings lots of trouble; not only to the disobedient, but to the innocent children produced! Human laws in any nation or internationally which contradict the plan of God are acts of rebellion! God would punish individuals, organizations, and nations who rebel through such dirty and immoral acts, legislations or edicts no matter how highly placed. The Biblical account of Sodom and Gomorrah is an historical fact which has been verified by Science and Archaeology. In fact judgment has started in the present age and would be more severe and disastrous at the final day of judgement! True repentance is the only way out. Delayed repentance is also dangerous. Picking on those who uphold the truth and decency of heterosexuality is making the matter worse. Choosing the model of homosexuality is unpopular. Compelling modern society to embrace and endorse the choices of others, against their own beliefs, makes the matter worse. It is wrong, unfair, illegal and constitutes confusion-master piece! The permission of gay couples to produce children through surrogate, third-party volunteers, sends conflicting signals already; and their choice constitutes the peak of self deception and delusion. Who is fooling who? If they truly wanted children; why did they not choose the natural way through a man and a woman? Nobody can mock or deceive God. The roles of the USA and UK governments and governments in the Western world are not only unpopular, but also unfair, since the views of the minority are being imposed upon the majority, through the back doors of legislation and judiciary! We demand a REFERENDUM!
Another problem is that of divorce. Marriage has been turned into a plaything. People enter into marriage, sitting on the edge and watching critically. At the least provocation and manifestation of problems, they opt for separation or divorce. It was not so in the beginning. It is a great responsibility for a father and a mother to bring up children together. How much harder it would be for only one parent to carry the burden alone! Generally, children brought up without responsible male and female adults living under the same roof as parents are not as balanced as those living in normal, married heterosexual relationships. Give God room in your personal and family lives. Reverence for God, selfless love, and consideration for others, especially your spouse, would help to keep your relationship alive. Allowing God to help you would enable you to experience stability, peace of mind and joy.

REMEMBRANCE AND THANKSGIVING

At this time of the year , November precisely, we often remember and celebrate the lives and commitment or our beloved ones who gave their lives in order that we may have and enjoy relative peace. Our memories of them is a continuing source of encouragement and strength to our lives as individuals, as family members, as friends and as patriots. There have been moments of tears, deep sighs, thoughts, dreams and heartfelt expressions. Different emotions and sentiments are expressed, based on the depth of love or closeness with these dear, departed ones. Life is a mixture of sweet and bitter; pleasant and painful; joyful and sorrowful experiences. Some of these losses both recent and from distant past still feel fresh or are being continually refreshed.
In the midst of our pain, sorrow, loneliness, anxiety and grief, Jesus Christ offers us comfort, companionship, peace, hope and joy. Wars and hostilities, both internally and internationally have raged and are still raging. From the 1st and 2nd World Wars, to regional wars, civil wars and onslaughts of terrorist activities, human lives continue to be undervalued and wasted. Hostilities are still going on in Syria, Iraq, Ukraine and Nigeria. The conflict between Israel and the Palestinians has not been easily resolved. Abuses of military and economic powers continue to promote and fuel acts of terrorism and vandalism across the globe.Some individuals and nations are guilty in this regard.That is why irresponsible and barbarous groups as IS and Boko Haram are still flexing their muscles. The International Community looks relatively helpless! BUT THE TIME FOR UNITED NEUTRALIZING ACTION IS NOW, BEING ALREADY OVERDUE!
Christopher Foster once said:

“The memories we cherish are enduring, the pains and sorrows we feel do not often pass quickly, and we are conscious of our lives continuing to be changed by the past and the present. Often we are sustained by the love and care of others who support us while, for many, faith nourishes us with the promise that eternal love binds us together in life and death.”

It is only good and worthwhile to look after the families and dependants of the departed fallen heroes and heroines!It shows more how truly appreciative we are. On the same not ex-service men and women should be properly looked after, including those who have become disabled!
Thomas Attig said:

“As we cherish memories we return to freshen and deepen our understanding of those who have died, attend to them again, bring them closer, embrace them in their absence, reconnect with some of the best in life, feel grateful, feel the warmth of our love for them, sense that they are grateful for our remembering and feel the warmth of their love for us.”

Human beings throughout history look confused and helpless in the face of death. Death strikes when he is ready. Death is the common enemy of mankind! We are limited and powerless, but God Almighty knows it all. God has power over life and death! Jesus Christ has defeated death!
Jesus said: “I am the living one! I was dead, but I have authority over death and the world of the dead. ” (Revelations 1:18).
Death came because of sin. Mankind was designed by God to live forever! The corruption and wickedness in the world is the fruit of sin and death is the due reward. At the right time in history, God took the initiative to rescue mankind from sin and death. He did so through Jesus Christ. God then made it possible for us to receive his nature and thus become free from the power of sin and its consequences, which are spiritual and physical deaths. These bring in sicknesses, diseases and all kinds of woes! Jesus Christ delivered us from all of theses woes which come from disobeying God. Jesus set us free.
The Bible states: Being now made free from sin, and become servants to God, ye have your fruit unto holiness and the end everlasting life. For the wages of sin is death, but the gift of God is eternal life through Jesus Christ, our Lord(Romans 6:22-23).
Jesus Christ died for our sins to pay the wages for us. He arose from the dead to make us assured of pardon and give new life from God[the God-Kind-of Life] to us.
The Bible states: If you shall confess with your mouth, Jesus as Lord and shall believe in your heart that God raised him from the dead, you shall be saved. For with the heart a person believes and is made righteous and with the mouth he confesses and is saved. Whosoever shall call upon the name of the Lord shall be saved. Romans 10:9-10, 13.

Jesus is alive. Death is vanquished! Because Jesus lives, all those who believe in him shall live also. For the believer in Christ, death is not final. At resurrection God gives those who believe new bodies; bodies which never die. (2 Corinthians 5:1-10)

Jesus said: I am the resurrection and the life. He who believes in me will live, even though he dies; and whoever lives and believes in me will never die. (John 11:25-26a).
Overwhelmed by the problems of life, Jeremiah encouraged himself in the prevailing power of God Almighty: Because of the Lord’s great love we are not consumed, for his compassions never fail. They are new every morning. Great is your faithfulness. (Lamentations 3:22-23). Jesus is the Prince of Peace. A time is coming soon when there shall no longer be wars. When Jesus comes to reign as King of kings and Lord of lords. Then people of every nation shall not learn about wars. Swords shall be converted into plowshares and spears into pruning hooks. (Isaiah 2:2-4)
Life is full of choices. We make choices daily. The choices we make affect our lives presently and for the future. Each person needs to examine his life and make a U-turn back to God. A good gift offered needs to be received in order to be owned. God offers us his peace. Peace in the heart and mind; peace at home; peace in our communities; peace in our nations and peace in our world.
Prayer: O LORD of peace; Thank You for the offer of your peace. Help us to accept the peace you have given through your Son Jesus Christ, who has made peace between us and You. Forgive us of our failures and trespasses. Help each one of us to repent and be converted to You. At this time of remembrance, we thank you for the lives of millions of our people across nations of the world who fought and served in various wars, so that we may have relative peace. Help each one of us still alive, to humbly examine himself, call upon Jesus and receive your pardon and inward peace. We ask through the same Jesus Christ, who is the coming Prince of Peace; King of kings and Lord of lords. Amen.

MORE ON MARRIAGE TODAY: WORK IT THROUGH SUCCESSFULLY

No man or woman should enter into marriage deceitfully; otherwise such marriages are not true marriages! A life time relationship should not be taken carelessly. God watches over all of us and He cannot be deceived. Each person shall give account to God. Marriage should not be handled loosely as to allow it to make us guilty before God. Where guilt exists, there must be repentance for healing and refreshing to take place. Neither POLYGAMY nor POLYANDRY is good or right. Marriage is honourable in all and the bed undefiled, but whoremongers and adulterers God will judge[Hebrews 13:4]. God does heal marriages today. He heals broken minds and hearts. He is the Restorer and Healer.
1. When God established marriage, He meant it for life time, till physical death parts the couple. Let God be true and all others liars. [Genesis 2:23-25; Romans 7:1-3; Malachi 2:14-16; Mark 10:2-12;]. What God has joined together, let not man put asunder[Let NO man/ woman/ family/ culture/ religion/ parliament/ legislature/ government/ law court put asunder.].
2. Can God heal sick, corrupted marriages? YES! If human beings would allow God by inviting Him in and patiently waiting for Him to do His miraculous operation. No case is too advanced for healing or beyond healing. Humility and true repentance can lead to wonderful, positive results. Examples do abound today of what God is doing. Divorce is not a remedy. Remember the example of the woman of Sychar in Samaria, who met Jesus at the well. That lady had five previous husbands and the sixth man she was having relationship with then was not her husband! [John 4:6-42]. If divorces gave any solution that woman should not have had up to six men in her life before she had miraculous encounter with Jesus. We were not told what happened to the lady afterwards, but if she ever married again I would expect that to have been a stable marriage because her life had been renewed and her focus brightened.
3. When God is at the centre of a marriage, problems are easily overcome. God never promised us that we would not have challenges or problems, but He assures us in every area of our lives that we would overcome problems. No one should build castles out of problems and make use of such castles as excuses for initiating divorce! Bring all your anxieties; all your worries; all your hurts; all your experiences of rejection; all the verbal and psychological abuses; all your broken hearts; all your own failures towards your spouses too; bring them all to JESUS! Jesus turns all sorrows into joy. Jesus will lift off the problems that weigh you down. Call upon Him without delay and wait for His miraculous operation! He truly cares [Matthew 11:28-30].
4. Do you seek forgiveness from God? Do you quickly forgive others when they offend you, even after their apologies? [Matthew 6:12; 7:12;]. Where in the Bible is it written that the sin of adultery cannot be forgiven? Many have used adultery as the basis for divorcing their spouses. God did not say that adultery should not be forgiven. When God said He hates divorce, it is implied that there is a remedy. Remedy for divorce is to stay faithful. Remedy for divorce is to stay vigilant and be our spouses keepers[not as spies, but as loving carers and watchers]. Remedy for divorce is to make yourself more pleasing and attractive to your spouse now that the ring is on your fingers and you have each other! Remedy for divorce is to submit to one another. On sexual intimacy each person should remember that his or her spouse should never be refused sex, except in rare cases of giving oneself to prayer and fasting. I would add also that by mutual consent it should be assessed that physical weakness as in tiredness arising from work or long travel could be a temporary excuse. The cure for that should be adequate rest. Shortly after child birth sexual intimacy may be postponed till the woman regains strength. No room should be given to temptation from Satan as a result of negligence on sexual intimacy. Brother Paul rightly states this in his epistle[1 Corinthians 7:3-6]. The stubborness or hardness of people’s hearts was the reason in Moses days why divorce was permitted, when adultery was reported. God never condoned adultery. The Israelites were very frequent with their spiritual adultery through abominable relationships and idolatrous practices. They were punished for such dirty practices, but when they cried out for mercy and repented, God forgave them many times and He restored them back into clean, fresh renewed relationship. God also restored their fortunes. Who can be likened to the LORD, the Almighty God, Who forgives sins and iniquities? Who are you to refuse forgiveness to your spouse? Are you wiser or more righteous or holier than God?
Remedy for divorce is to uphold your family altar of worship, reading of the Bible, meditation, prayer and thanksgiving everyday. Let the word of Christ dwell in you richly in all wisdom; teaching and admonishing one another in psalms and hymns and spiritual songs, singing with grace in your hearts to the Lord. And whatsoever ye do in word or deed, do all in the name of the Lord Jesus, giving thanks to God and the Father by him. [Psalms 119; Psalms 107: Micah 7:18-20; Colossians 3:16-17].
The only unforgivable sin is to reject Jesus Christ. Another remedy for divorce is humility before each other. TALK together in turns and LISTEN to each other. The seniority of the man as husband and father makes him the biggest servant at home and not the task master! The humility of your husband should never be taken for granted. Accord to him the honour due to him as the head who is as Christ to you. As a mark of humility it is not too difficult to say and mean sorry when wrong or when you offend each other. Because you are married, work out your marriage with love. It takes the two to work out their marriage successfully. GOD is ever faithful, His Word is true and cannot be undermined. In marriage God wants each couple to win. True love honours, trusts, serves, obeys, endures, gives and forgives. [1 Corinthians 13: 4-7]. As a Christian couple God expects you to make your marriage honourable and successful. Grace be with you.

AGAPE NUGGETS – 2

Forgiveness is an essential component of relationships. If you appreciate or love a person, you would not be hesitant to overlook his or her shortcomings or failures. That is not indicative of condoning the bad behaviour of the other person,but being willing and ready to accommodate and uplift the man, woman or child whom you love.If a person fails, you would not seek to bury him or her alive! You would not ‘make a mountain out of a molehill’ in the course of your reaction to the other person’s mistakes or failures.A molehill is the small mound of earth thrown up by a mole while burrowing. A mole is a small burrowing mammal which has velvety or dark fur. It has a its forearms specialised for digging.It often feeds on insects.If you would judge yourself truly, you would know that you are not perfect either.A molehill is treated as a mountain when you exagerrate on the mistakes of others,making them look aweful as if irredeemable.You could make your spouse appear useless or unprofitable when you never see any good in whatever he or she does.Who are you to condemn another person?Have you never failed? We put it to you that by that very attitude of yours in justifying yourself,you have just failed! On the other hand,you may not approve the acts of the other person,but you seek to correct him or her in love, by making constructive criticisms.Anyone who fails to see positive potential in his or her neighbour,work colleague,subordinates,students, friend,family member or spouse needs to do a self-examination.Forgive today and always.Forgive your spouse now.God forgives us and expects us to be forgiving too; otherwise God would not forgive us.Corrective discipline is better than damning judgment which closes the door to future hope and progress.That is not the way of peace and progress.Habitual fault-finding makes a person to hunt for faults in others.The trend therefore is to find fault on important matters as well as trivial matters.On those trivial matters,watch out;you might be ‘making a mountain out of a molehill’.Please shun stubborn unforgiving lifestyle because it is psychologically and spiritually poisonous!Another very interesting rider to forgiveness is in dealing with your self personally.Do you;have you;or would you ever forgive yourself?Paul writing under the influence of the Spirit of God in Ephesians 4:31-32 states: Let all bitterness,and wrath,and anger and clamour,and evil speaking be put away from you,with all malice:And be ye kind one to another,tenderhearted,forgiving one another,even as God for Christ’s sake hath forgiven you.Jesus Christ also said that if we forgive others,God would forgive us,but if we fail to forgive,then we should not expect to be forgiven by God!(Matthew 6:14-15). Please,get in touch with us.God bless you.

CHRISTIAN LOVE TODAY

Love is of God and in fact God is Love.Anyone who does not love certainly does not know God.God showed his love right from the beginning of the making of man by giving man dominion over the world that he had made.When man failed,God did not abandon mankind, but offered us a way of escape from the catastrophic consequences of our sinful action.Jesus came as sent by God to make peace between us and God.Jesus said:greater love has no man than this;that a man laid down his life for his friends. Love is demonstrated in reciprocal love to the first giver. It is also expressed in trust and obedience.For any two persons to live together or relate together, there must be mutual respect, trust and love between them.Love must be willing to accept the other person just as she/he is.Only God in his perfect love has the power and right to lay a perfect way for us.This he has done once and for all through Jesus whom he sent. Human love does not therefore seek to make another person fit into his/her own mould or assessment, but gives audience to the other person’s views,no matter how wrong they may appear.In the process of time,because of the basic acceptance,not condoning; the person in the wrong may be able to see aright and reason with the more accurate,accommodating and loving friend.God gave an open invitation long time ago thus: ‘‘Come now and let us reason together’’,He said. If God could so extend an invitation to man,why should fellow human beings fail to do so to their neighbours;or why alternatively refuse any gestures of similar invitation?Love is patient,kind,not envious,not boastful and not proud.It is not rude;it is selfless,not easily made angry, and keeps no record of wrongs.Love does not enjoy evil,but very happy with the truth. Love is protective,trusting,hopeful and persevering.It never fails(I Corinthians 13:4-8b).Jesus said:By this, all men will know that you are my disciples, if you love one another.Love promotes unity;unity in practical,corporate, positive action in enhancing the spread of the Gospel. Not unity in name;not in administration.These are the days when practical love is most needed among brethren and from the church outwards.If a person chops off his finger,the whole of his body suffers from the self-inflicted pain.Let brotherly love continue:-in uplifting one another;in corporate ministration;in corporate edification,bringing glory to Jesus.Grace be with you.