Posts Tagged ‘counselling’

AGAPE NUGGETS

If you say that you love a person and you do not always speak home truths to him or her, your love is fake. Such love is based on fear, falsehood,  discouragement, selfishness, wickedness, or any other form of evil. What if the other person rejects or rebuffs your good intentions? Then you are not liable, but your  association or relationship is on shaky grounds. Such relationship would not last, except there is change of attitude and repentance.
If you are married, please go all out to love and cherish your relationship with your spouse. Do not take him or her for granted. Commit your ways unto the LORD. Trust and obey his words. Respect each other. Communicate freely and openly with each other every day. Do things together- praying, eating, walking, listening, leisure, sleeping, resting, holidaying and sexual intimacy. Planning comes without saying, for these to be achievable. When the children start to come never allow your relationship to become sidelined!
If you are single, never enter into any relationship which would not improve your life morally, spiritually with God, your life skills and ensure continuity of the basic needs of life. Your peace of mind, body and soul are of vital importance. Evil companionship corrupts good manners.
Bear in mind the fact that you cannot improve yourself by resisting the good counsel and supportive efforts of your true friends. One of such friends may desire to spend the rest of his or her life with you as your spouse in the near future! If you spoil your chances you may regret later. Therefore, be steadfast, diligent and watchful. Be prayerful and focused in life also. Keep your body pure and chaste. Pre-marital sex does no good to marital foundation and happiness. Your life needs to be cleansed of such impurity and sin in order to build a solid foundation for Christian Marriage.  Never toy with counselling from trusted Christian persons and your pastor.
Dear friend, let me humbly tell you an important home truth. If you have not given your life to Jesus Christ, you are lost and you probably do not realise this fact yet.
You can rectify this situation before it is too late!
If you confess with your mouth that Jesus Christ is your Lord and believe in your heart that God raised Jesus from the dead, you shall be saved.
Sincerely call upon Jesus now. Invite him into your life. Jesus Christ would honour your invitation and come in to change your life for the better. Whosoever shall call upon the name of the Lord Jesus Christ shall be saved. Romans 10: 9-13. Please do so quickly anywhere you may be now. Quietly from your heart; or in your room; in the bathroom or even in the toilet! In the plane travelling or on the motorcycle; you can surrender your life to Jesus Christ.
Jesus Christ came into this world to save sinners. That includes me and you. Nobody is exempted. For God so loved the world that he gave his only begotten Son that whosoever believes in him should not perish but have everlasting life. John 3:16. Please let us know that you have made the decision to follow Jesus Christ. We shall be glad to support you in your walk with Jesus. We send you useful materials of faith in Jesus. We would also link you with the Church nearest to you for good fellowship.
God bless you.

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IMPORTANT LIFE CHOICES: WORK AND BIBLICAL MARRIAGE

You are welcome to Biblical Counselling with Agape Focus. We are considering two of the many important choices we make as human beings, namely work and marriage. Although everyone makes choices on earth; some choices are viewed as being more important than others by the different people who make them. We are focusing on work and Biblical Marriage. Everyone needs food, clothes, shelter or house. Therefore you need money from a regular job to secure these basic needs of life. Anyone who refuses to work should not rightfully expect to eat. God, our Maker, instructed us from day 1 to work and that order has not changed. You must be able to feed, clothe and house yourself before taking care of others. Christian Marriage and Biblical Marriage are one and the same, barring modern-day ignorance, which lead to misconceptions, misinterpretations and confusion.  Marriage is meant for a life time. The present human conflict over marriage does not reduce the life time importance of marriage.

Marriage is meant for companionship, sexual fulfilment and procreation. A man and a woman come into relationship that leads into marriage because they have discovered that there is mutual trust and friendship. Their desires in life are worthwhile and have good prospect. They are in love and are hopeful of spending their future lives together. They are poised to face realities such as finance, accommodation, genetic counselling, family planning and the future. As Christians, their first point of consideration is being sure of God’s leading after much prayerful thought. Good marriage counselling from more matured Christians is very essential. The final choice belongs to the two.

The modern confusion over human sexuality and marriage is not from God, the Maker of marriage. Biologically,there is no inheritable gene for homosexuality! All various claims of human sexuality, other than the traditional and natural orders of male and female do not have scientific proofs! Human beings have only decided to do things their own way. The consequences of human violations of the plan of God for mankind and marriage are destabilising and dangerous! The plan of God is 1MAN+1WOMAN=TRUE MARRIAGE. When you choose to get married, be guided by selfless love, maturity, understanding and great responsibility. Each man and woman coming together should know that it is meant  for life time, till either of them dies. Any disobedience such as in abuses and divorces brings lots of trouble; not only to the disobedient, but to the innocent children produced! Human laws in any nation or internationally which contradict the plan of God are acts of rebellion! God would punish individuals, organizations, and nations who rebel through such dirty and immoral acts, legislations or edicts no matter how highly placed. The Biblical account of Sodom and Gomorrah is an historical fact which has been verified by Science and Archaeology. In fact judgment has started in the present age and would be more severe and disastrous at the final day of judgement! True repentance is the only way out. Delayed repentance is also dangerous. Picking on those who uphold the truth and decency of heterosexuality is making the matter worse. Choosing the model of homosexuality is unpopular. Compelling modern society to embrace and endorse the choices of others, against their own beliefs, makes the matter worse. It is wrong, unfair, illegal and constitutes confusion-master piece! The permission of gay couples to produce children through surrogate, third-party volunteers, sends conflicting signals already; and their choice constitutes the peak of self deception and delusion. Who is fooling who? If they truly wanted children; why did they not choose the natural way through a man and a woman? Nobody can mock or deceive God. The roles of the USA and UK governments and governments in the Western world are not only unpopular, but also unfair, since the views of the minority are being imposed upon the majority, through the back doors of legislation and judiciary! We demand a REFERENDUM!
Another problem is that of divorce. Marriage has been turned into a plaything. People enter into marriage, sitting on the edge and watching critically. At the least provocation and manifestation of problems, they opt for separation or divorce. It was not so in the beginning. It is a great responsibility for a father and a mother to bring up children together. How much harder it would be for only one parent to carry the burden alone! Generally, children brought up without responsible male and female adults living under the same roof as parents are not as balanced as those living in normal, married heterosexual relationships. Give God room in your personal and family lives. Reverence for God, selfless love, and consideration for others, especially your spouse, would help to keep your relationship alive. Allowing God to help you would enable you to experience stability, peace of mind and joy.